I’m sharing this because I’m perplexed. As my mom would say, I’m “cornfused.”
I have no idea what’s happening to me lately.
Something feels different, like a subtle shift in the air.
Here’s what I see on my surface. I’m an unemployed guy battling the state for my unemployment benefits. I can barely get a blip of interest in my job search. I’m carrying more weight than I’d like, trying to build a business I’m passionate about, and wrestling with my mental health daily.
Okay, fine, I’m wrestling with life daily. And sometimes life cracks me over the head with a steel chair.
Despite what I see on my surface, I’m seeing something bizarre in my space lately. In the past month, I’ve gotten more attention from attractive women than I have in years!
I don’t get it. I am also not complaining.
Take a few nights ago, for instance. While on a run in downtown Stamford, I exchanged smiles with a woman walking her golden retriever. Her smile wasn’t just polite; it held a spark of interest, a hint of attraction. It said, “He’s cute. I’d like to get to know him.”
And honestly, I wouldn’t mind getting to know her better either.
Then last night, on my way to my favorite coffee shop, I made eye contact with a woman in her late 30s at an outdoor table. Our eyes met, and a connection seemed to form. I smiled, and to my surprise, she waved.
She freakin’ waved!
I’ve heard confidence is attractive, and I’ve been building both community and confidence lately. Could that be the key?
Could it really be that simple?
It reminds me of a time, maybe 20 years ago, at Gold’s Gym in Dothan, Alabama. I was chatting with two beautiful women on the treadmills. When I was done with cardio, a young guy who saw me holding court with these two ladies approached me in the locker room and said something that stuck with me: “You’re a real ladies man, aren’t you?”
Me? A ladies man?
Back then, I was nowhere near the therapy and personal development journey I’m on now. I thought all that stuff was pointless.
Maybe it’s just taken me 47.5 years to figure out who I really am and what I have to offer. Maybe the years of self-reflection and personal growth have finally started to bear fruit.
Or maybe this is God’s way of saying, “You’re right where you need to be.” Maybe this is a sign that I’m on the right path, that the struggles and challenges have led me to a place of greater self-awareness and confidence.
Whatever the reason, I’m embracing this unexpected turn of events. I’m open to the possibilities, and curious about where this newfound energy can take me.
Maybe this is just a fleeting moment?
Maybe this is but a blip on the radar of my life?
Or maybe…just maybe…this is the beginning of the chapter in the book of my life that I’ve always dreamed of?
